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by Karen Bigman
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.
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- 3 days ago32 min
What Is Tantric Sex? It’s Not What You Think (Tantra for Beginners) | Ep. 211
In this episode, I’m talking about tantra with tantra teacher and intimacy coach Deborah "Kat", and I’ll admit she threw me off within the first five minutes. Like most of you, when I heard “tantra” I thought tantric sex. Deb told me it’s a way of life, and the moment she explained it, the whole conversation about sexless marriages opened up.So many couples over 50 tell me they feel like roommates. The kids are gone, retirement is on the horizon, and nothing is happening in the bedroom. Deb’s answer starts with you, not your partner. She walks me through the three physical principles of tantra, movement, breath, and sound, and why letting yourself make noise during solo pleasure changed everything for her. She also shares how, after 27 years with her partner, she still finds her way back to desire by simply letting herself look at him.We get real about resentment, the socks-under-the-bed kind that kills attraction, and why it has to be worked through privately before any invitation can land. Deb explains why men often roll over after sex out of vulnerability, not exhaustion, how shame shaped what she let herself enjoy for years, and the one line she gives men in mismatched desire relationships: “I just want to kiss. If you want more, come to me.” I also share a painful moment from my own marriage, when my husband didn’t notice I’d lost 15 pounds until a therapist asked him directly.If you’ve gone quiet in your relationship, this conversation gives you small, doable places to start. And part two is coming, so stay close.This is part one of my two-part conversation with Deb Kat. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don’t miss part two next week, where we pick up right where we left off.🔗 The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In This Episode:00:00 – Roommates, Not Lovers00:22 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth00:55 – Meet Deborah "Kat": Tantra, Bodywork and 27 Years Together02:10 – What Is Tantra? The Meaning Beyond Tantric Sex03:51 – Movement, Breath and Sound: Tantric Sex Practices for Beginners06:47 – Finding Pleasure Outside the Bedroom08:59 – Permission, Asking for What You Want and the Sound of the Heart11:11 – When Resentment Is Killing Your Sex Life14:07 – Deciding to Be Available: What Can We Do in a Minute?15:35 – Why He Rolls Over After Sex (It’s Not Sleep)17:47 – Shame, Pillow Talk and Talking About It After20:21 – Revisiting Your Early Dates21:40 – Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire: Just a Kiss23:43 – The Pool Story: Flirting Through Self-Care25:37 – Reclaiming Intimacy in a Midlife Body27:05 – Stop Fighting Your Partner in Your Head: 10 Deep Breaths28:55 – When My Husband Didn’t Notice Me: Slow Down31:25 – Coming Up in Part Two31:56 – OutroAbout The Guest:Deborah Kat is a sex and relationship coach on a mission to help people have the best sex of their lives with the people they love. She has practiced tantra for more than 20 years across at least three lineages, and she brings years of experience as a bodyworker plus training in kink, massage, flirting, dating, and relating. She has worked with hundreds of clients, from corporate CEOs to newlywed couples, and draws on her own 27-year relationship to teach that communication, repair, and erotic connection are skills you can learn and practice. Deborah hosts The Better Sex Podcast and the Better Sex Summit. Her philosophy is simple: better sex, better humans, better world.Connect with Deborah Kat:Website: https://www.deborahkat.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349Podcast: https://www.deborahkat.com/podcastSubstack: https://deborahkat.substack.comAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in mi
- 1 weeks ago7 min
Can a Sexless Marriage Survive? 4 Patterns to Spot & Break
In this episode, I’m taking on a sentence I hear constantly from men in a sexless marriage: “She just doesn’t want sex anymore. This is who she is now.” I want to slow that down, since treating her disinterest as a fixed personality trait is usually misreading the situation entirely.What’s usually running underneath is one or more of four patterns that relationship researcher John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Researchers can predict a relationship ending from watching a single argument, and these four are what they’re watching for. I take them one at a time and show you what each is quietly doing to desire. Criticism goes after who you are instead of what you did. Contempt, the one weighed heaviest, says I think less of you, and you can’t want someone you feel looked down on by. Defensiveness turns every soft moment into ammunition. And stonewalling, that flat “fine” and the walk out of the room, reads as total indifference even when it’s really a nervous system hitting overwhelm.None of this means one of you is the problem and the other is the patient one. You can both be trying sincerely and still be stuck. So I close with what interrupts these patterns: naming a behavior instead of attacking character, pausing a fight without abandoning each other, and rebuilding affection with no expectation attached before you try to fix sex at all. My ask for you: pick the one pattern that hit hardest and notice the next time it shows up, in your voice or your partner’s.🔗 The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861In This Episode:0:00 – 4 Patterns That Predict a Sexless Marriage0:07 – “She Just Doesn’t Want It Anymore” Isn’t Who She Is0:45 – Gottman’s Four Horsemen: The Patterns That Predict a Breakup1:57 – Horseman 1: Criticism (Character vs. Behavior)2:47 – Horseman 2: Contempt, the Strongest Predictor3:30 – Sponsor: ARYA3:52 – Horseman 3: Defensiveness4:23 – Horseman 4: Stonewalling & the Silent Treatment5:00 – Why a Sexless Marriage Is Rarely a Mystery5:22 – How to Fix It: Address Behavior, Not Character5:43 – How to Pause a Fight Without Abandoning Each Other6:10 – Don’t Make Intimacy the First Thing You Fix6:34 – Your Takeaway: Notice One Pattern6:53 – The Midlife Man Coaching ProgramTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comMORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES!🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up?
- 1 weeks ago29 min
Why Women Don’t Tell Men What They Want in Bed | Ep. 208 (Part 1)
This episode is brought to you by OBOO, makers of vibrators, lubricants, and vulva care for women in perimenopause and beyond. Use code TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://oboo.loveIn this episode, I’m back with sex researcher Melanie Curtin for part two, and we start with something I’ll admit right up front. I can talk to any stranger about anything, and I still find it hard to tell a man in bed that he’s crossed a line or that something hurts.Melanie’s research shows I’m far from alone. Just under half of the women she surveyed said telling a partner what isn’t working is a 7 out of 10 or harder, and 10% called it impossible. She walks me through the four fears underneath that silence, and why grinning and bearing it can feel safer than risking the relationship. Then she explains what men can do about it: lead instead of waiting, and say thank you when she finally tells the truth, even when it stings.From there we get into her heart-power matrix, why the nice guy and the bad boy both leave women unsatisfied, and what women really mean when they say they want to feel ravished. Melanie also explains why trauma bonds can pull harder than chemistry, why so many men are lonelier than they realize, and why the best way to attract a healthy partner is to do your own work first.In This Episode:0:00 – Sponsor: OBOO0:39 – Welcome Back to Part Two1:32 – Why It’s Still Hard to Say “That Hurts”2:44 – Fear 1: He’ll Lash Out3:23 – Fear 2: He’ll Pull Away4:09 – Fear 3: Feeling Like Something’s Wrong With Her4:48 – Fear 4: Being Judged for What She Wants6:00 – “Thank You for Telling Me”: How to Be a Safe Man6:53 – When Silence Ends a Marriage7:39 – Passive, Aggressive, or Leading?9:36 – The Heart-Power Matrix10:55 – What Polarity Really Means11:47 – Too Nice vs. Too Rough: What Women Said12:53 – The Integrated Man14:12 – Feeling Taken and Safe at the Same Time16:36 – Nice Guys, Players & Why Men Are So Lonely18:34 – Why Women Go for the Bad Boy19:52 – “He Read Me Like a Book”20:45 – From Nice Guy to Bold and Direct22:56 – Does Sex Make Women Bond Faster?23:48 – Trauma Bonds & Attracting a Healthy Partner26:12 – How the Patriarchy Hurts Men27:31 – Where to Find MelanieTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Guest:Melanie Curtin is a sex and relationship coach and Stanford-educated sex researcher whose research is published in the Harvard Dataverse. She helps growth-minded men have thriving sex and love lives, whether they’re single or partnered. She surveyed 1,067 women about what makes a man great in bed, what makes him forgettable, and what they wish they’d told a past partner. She’s also the host of the Dear Men podcast.Connect with Melanie Curtin: Website: https://www.melaniecurtin.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniebcurtin/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melaniecurtinPodcast - Dear Men https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-datingand-relationships-with-women/id1347811999About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a
- 2 weeks ago8 min
Do Men Need Emotional Connection to Want Sex? The Real Answer | Ep. 209
Do men need emotional connection to feel desire? The story we all learned says men just need a body and an opportunity, and women are the ones who need to feel close first. For a lot of men, that story is backwards. They just never say it out loud.I break down why men are taught from adolescence that wanting closeness is needy, and how that unspoken need shows up instead as irritability, withdrawal, or a sudden drop in desire. I explain the difference between vasopressin and oxytocin, why men often bond through shared effort and shared goals instead of long conversations, and how attachment style can make a guarded man disengage from intimacy as a form of protection, even decades into a relationship.Then I walk through the five places connection gets built or lost in long-term and midlife relationships: open communication, active listening, quality time, empathy, and physical touch outside the bedroom. You’ll hear what each one looks like in real life, why empty nest couples often lose quality time to logistics, and the easiest one you can restart tonight.This episode is sponsored by ARYA, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT-certified sexologists. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code TRUTH15 for 15% off.Check out my S*x Snacks: https://www.taboototruth.com/post/sex-snacksIn This Episode:0:00 – Do Men Need Emotional Connection to Want S*x?0:07 – The Man Who Proved Me Wrong0:30 – Why the “Men Just Need a Body” Story Is Backwards1:20 – Attachment Style and Why He Pulls Away2:19 – 5 Places Connection Is Built: #1 Open Communication3:26 – #2 Active Listening3:56 – Sponsor: ARIA4:32 – #3 Quality Time: Vasopressin vs. Oxytocin5:22 – #4 Empathy Without Fixing6:12 – #5 Touch Outside the Bedroom6:43 – Final Thoughts: Look for the Disconnection FirstTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comMORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES!🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F
- 2 weeks ago30 min
What Makes a Man Great in Bed? A Researcher Asked 1,067 Women | Ep. 208
In this episode, I sit down with researcher and men’s relationship coach Melanie Curtin. She asked more than 1,000 women a question most men think they already know the answer to: what actually makes a man great in bed? Her findings blew up a lot of assumptions, mine included.We start with the number that stopped me. 61% of women say they’ve broken up with someone over the sex, and most never said a word to him about it. Melanie explains the pattern she saw again and again. A woman speaks up once or twice, watches nothing change, and decides to grin and bear it so she doesn’t feel like a nag. I share my own version of that story from my dating life right now, plus what menopause and dryness add to the mix.We get into why pain is one of women’s top complaints in bed and never shows up on men’s list, and why so many men touch a woman the way they’d want to be touched. Melanie’s rule is simple: if she asks for anything, multiply it by ten. We also talk about the arousal gap, the shame spiral that follows performance anxiety, and why the women in her research almost never mentioned erections, endurance, or a great body.The best lovers did something much simpler. They paid attention, in and out of the bedroom. Part two is coming next week, so stay close.💓 This episode is brought to you by OBOO, makers of vibrators, lubricants, and vulva care for women in perimenopause and beyond. Use code TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://oboo.loveIn This Episode:0:00 – Sponsor: OBOO0:34 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth1:08 – Meet Melanie Curtin2:21 – How the Research Worked (and Why It’s Subjective)4:59 – Have You Ever Broken Up Over Bad Sex?6:30 – Why Women Speak Up Once, Then Give Up8:51 – Men’s vs. Women’s Top Sex Problems11:12 – Why Her Body Is More Sensitive Than He Thinks13:05 – Slow and Light: The 21-Minute Arousal Gap14:30 – Menopause, Dryness & Why Slowing Down Matters16:12 – Performance Anxiety: Why Some Men Stop Dating18:33 – Why He Touches Her the Way He Wants to Be Touched19:30 – The Couples Who Grin and Bear It20:26 – Turn Her Feedback Up 10x21:51 – Ask the Right Question, Then Actually Listen22:25 – Masculinity, Menopause & His Silent Changes23:16 – What 97% of Women Never Mentioned24:12 – The Best Lover She Ever Had (No Intercourse)25:37 – Losing an Erection Without Losing Her27:30 – What 37% of Women Remembered Most28:55 – Feeling Seen Is Foreplay29:46 – Part Two Coming Next...About The Guest:About The Guest:Melanie Curtin is a sex and relationship coach and Stanford-educated sex researcher whose research is published in the Harvard Dataverse. She helps growth-minded men have thriving sex and love lives, whether they’re single or partnered. She surveyed 1,067 women about what makes a man great in bed, what makes him forgettable, and what they wish they’d told a past partner. She’s also the host of the Dear Men podcast.Connect with Melanie Curtin: Website: https://www.melaniecurtin.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniebcurtin LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melaniecurtinPodcast - Dear Men https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-datingand-relationships-with-women/id1347811999About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to gi
- 3 weeks ago5 min
Could Your Penis Be Telling You Something? ED, Diabetes & Heart Health After 50 | Ep. 206
In this episode, I’m talking about what diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart health have to do with your sex life, and why a change in your erections deserves a doctor’s visit, not a private panic.Most men who notice a change ask themselves the wrong questions first. Am I still a man? Am I still desired? Is this the beginning of the end? That identity filter is exactly what keeps them out of the doctor’s office. Erectile difficulties are not a verdict on who you are. They’re a health signal.I walk through how high blood pressure and diabetes affect blood flow and nerves, why some blood pressure medications can be the real culprit, and why the arteries in the penis often show damage years before the heart does. I also get honest about where the shame comes from. Men were taught that masculinity lives in their erections, so any change feels like an indictment. It isn’t. It’s information.My ask: find a doctor you see regularly, so when the harder conversations come up, you already have someone you trust. And if this lands for you, send it to a man in your life who needs the nudge.‼️ Your erections can flag a blood flow problem years before your heart does. That’s why I partnered with FirmTech, a smart ring that tracks your erectile health so you get real data instead of guesswork. Get 15% using my link and code TABOO15 at myfirmtech.com/karenbigmanSign up for my free newsletter, where the real, unfiltered stuff lives: https://www.taboototruth.comIn This Episode:0:00 – Your Erection Could Be a Warning Sign0:18 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:44 – The Identity Filter That Keeps Men From Getting Checked1:06 – ED by the Numbers: Diabetes & High Blood Pressure1:29 – How Blood Pressure and Diabetes Affect Erections1:47 – When Your Blood Pressure Meds Are the Problem2:10 – Your Body’s Barometer: The Heart Connection2:47 – Newsletter Break3:06 – Embarrassment, Quick Fixes & Where the Shame Comes From3:36 – The Biggest Obstacle: Not Seeking Help3:58 – Find a Doctor Before You Need One4:34 – Final thoughtsTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comMORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES!🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F
- 3 weeks ago28 min
Sex after prostate cancer: what men need to know before surgery with Dr. Amy Pearlman | Ep. 205 (Part 2)
In this episode, I'm back with urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman for part two of our conversation. We start with a question I hear all the time: does ejaculating often protect your prostate? She walks me through the research, why masturbation counts, and the plant-forward way of eating that protects your prostate along with every other organ.Then we get into prostate cancer. Dr. Pearlman explains why most men die with it rather than from it, when active surveillance makes sense, and why you should get more than one opinion before choosing a treatment. Most importantly, she explains how men can protect their sex lives: starting penile rehab before surgery, seeing a pelvic floor physical therapist, practicing with a vacuum pump, and using Trimix injections when Viagra and Cialis aren't enough. She even believes many men can have the best sex of their lives after treatment.We finish with penis size. Dr. Pearlman shares why she asks every patient about size concerns, what traction therapy can realistically do for length, why she uses dissolvable hyaluronic acid for girth enhancement, and why you should always ask what the worst-case scenario is before any procedure. Her final advice: go to every appointment prepared, with a list of questions and a goal.Most men have no idea what's actually happening with their erections until something goes wrong. That's why I partnered with FirmTech, a smart ring that tracks your erectile health so you get real data instead of guesswork. Get 15% off at myfirmtech.com/karenbigman‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode:00:00 – Intro00:45 – Does ejaculating more protect your prostate?02:05 – The diet that protects your prostate (and every other organ)03:18 – Prostate cancer and your sex life04:26 – Active surveillance: when you don't need treatment yet05:00 – Why prostate cancer usually has no symptoms06:14 – Your treatment options, and why to get more than one opinion07:44 – Why penile rehab starts before surgery08:24 – Pelvic floor PT before prostate surgery09:26 – Learning the vacuum pump before you need it10:00 – Trimix: penile injections explained11:08 – How men learn to do their first injection12:05 – Why injections work when Viagra doesn't13:46 – Better sex after prostate cancer?15:23 – Why men are obsessed with penis size17:16 – Girth enhancement with hyaluronic acid20:00 – Can you actually gain length?21:30 – The worst-case question before any procedure22:38 – What is Phallofill?25:11 – Use ChatGPT to prep for your doctor's visit26:47 – Where to find Dr. Amy Pearlman27:38 – OutroTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!About The Guest:Dr. Amy Pearlman is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained specialist in sexual medicine, male hormonal health, and genitourinary reconstruction. She is the co-founder of Prime Institute in Miami, where she takes a modern, evidence-based approach to optimizing sexual health, hormones, and longevity. A nationally recognized educator and speaker, Dr. Pearlman is passionate about making conversations around sexual health more practical, approachable, and engaging. Her work bridges traditional medicine with emerging therapies and technologies, helping patients better understand their bodies and the growing number of options available to improve sexual function, confidence, and quality of life.Connect with Dr. Amy Pearlman:Website: https://www.primeinstitute.usInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amypearlmanmdYouTube: @DocAmyUrologyPodcast: Fertility and Other F WordsAbout The Host:Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance C
- 4 weeks ago11 min
Erectile Dysfunction After 50? Let’s Talk Penis Rings, Pumps & What Actually Works | Ep. 206
In this episode, I'm opening up the toolbox most men refuse to touch: penis rings, vacuum pumps, and prostate massagers. Men avoid these products for the same reason they avoid the doctor. They think needing help means something is wrong with them. It doesn't. Your body at 50 isn't your body at 25, and a tool that works with it is a way to enjoy the body you're in right now, not an admission of failure.I break down what a ring can and can't do (it holds what's already there, it doesn't create it), why your overnight data can be an early warning sign for your vascular health, and the 30-minute rule I repeat every single time. I explain why pumps started in urologists' offices, why going slow matters more than going fast, and why this part of your body really does follow a use-it-or-lose-it rule. Then I get into the prostate, the gland most men ignore, the myth that keeps them from exploring it, and how it can support pelvic health.If there's a man in your life who's been quietly struggling, or just curious, send him this one.‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode:0:00 – Rings, Pumps & Prostate Massagers0:09 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth0:35 – Why Men Avoid These Tools1:14 – How a Ring Actually Works1:43 – When to Talk to Your Doctor2:13 – Beginner Silicone Rings2:28 – FirmTech: Hook Ring, Tech Ring & Add-On3:17 – MyHixel & Lasting Longer3:43 – Ring Options for Couples3:58 – Ring Safety: The 30-Minute Rule4:16 – The Ohnut: Comfort for Couples4:51 – How Vacuum Pumps Work5:09 – Dr. Joel Kaplan's Clinical Pump6:02 – Go Slow: Pump Safety6:23 – Use It or Lose It6:44 – Bathmate Water Pumps7:17 – Why Pumps and Rings Work Together7:28 – Why the Prostate Matters8:04 – The Myth That Holds Men Back8:25 – Prostate Massage for Pelvic Health8:44 – MysteryVibe Molto9:04 – Aneros: Hands-Free Massagers9:58 – Patience & Safety Basics10:19 – Final Thoughts10:37 – OutroTo watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!Shop the products I mention:FirmTech Penis Rings (15% off) with my link: https://myfirmtech.com/karenbigmanCouples: Kiiroo's Lux Him/Lux Her or FirmTech's vibrating attachment.Mystery Vibe Molto Prostate Massager (10% off) with Code: TABOO10Silicone beginner rings (Amazon)MyHixel Pressure-point ringMyHixel Endurance TrainerOhnut Buffer RingsDr. Joel Kaplan Vacuum Devices (10% Off) with code TABOO10Bathmate Penis Pumps (15% off) with code TABOO15Jim Benson's The Multi-Orgasmic Lover ($50 off using my link)About The Host:Kar
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About Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.
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