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by André Duqum
Know Thyself is a community supporting you to KNOW the true nature of yourself and the world around you, THRIVE in your health, wealth, and relationships – ultimately empowering you to CREATE and share your true self with the world. Each week André Duqum interviews experts in their field; ranging from spiritual educators to cutting edge scientists, heart-led creatives & more on topics such as the true nature of ‘Self’, “what is reality?,” and exploring the fundamental pillars we all need to unlock our fullest potential.
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- 2 days ago1h 34m
E218 - Mel Robbins: The Secret to Actually Transforming Your Life
In this episode I sit down with Mel Robbins, host of The Mel Robbins Podcast and author of The Let Them Theory. Mel takes me back to the age of 41, when liens on her house, unemployment, heavy drinking, and constant anger had turned her into a person she didn’t recognize. We explore what finally moved her to change, why thinking alone never changes a life, and how she slowly separated her sense of worth from her success through therapy, a quieter life in Vermont, and learning to slow down a nervous system that never stopped running.What We Dive Into:1. For Mel, change came when staying where she was became more painful than doing the small things she had been avoiding. Her life began to turn once she stopped waiting for someone to rescue her and started acting like the person she needed, one ordinary Tuesday at a time, without waiting to feel ready.2. Saying let them is a boundary that helps you recognize what you cannot control, from a parent’s habits to a friend’s opinion of you. The real power comes in the second step, let me, where you choose your response, your boundaries, and how you want to show up in the relationship from here.3. Mel came to see purpose as something that happens in other people when you do what you do. It can be lived anywhere, in a grocery store line or with an Uber driver, through the way your energy and presence leave others feeling encouraged, seen, and a little more hopeful about their own lives.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:https://drinkLMNT.com/KnowThyselfTry LMNT & get a free sample pack https://www.sleep.me/knowthyselfTo get up to $640 off your Chilipad 2.0 with code KNOWTHYSELF___________00:00 Intro01:58 The Invisible Social Clock13:07 The Freedom of Transparency15:21 Perfectionism and Excellence19:18 The Decision to Change25:18 Separating Worth From Success30:23 Healing a Hypervigilant Nervous System38:31 Understanding the Let Them Theory44:39 The Hardwired Need for Control54:41 Context, Compassion, and Responsibility58:46 Simple Tools for Chronic Stress1:01:26 Let Them as an Entry Point1:09:08 Simplicity and Communication1:20:38 What We Hope to Leave Behind1:23:35 Navigating Being Misunderstood1:27:08 What Success Teaches___________✨MORE FROM MEL ROBBINS↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/↳The Let Them Theory: https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory↳YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins↳https://www.melrobbins.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
- 1 weeks ago2h 10m
E217 - David Whyte: The Conversational Nature of Reality
David Whyte trained as a marine zoologist, spent two years as a naturalist guide in the Galapagos, and went on to become one of the most beloved poets of our time. In this conversation we begin with words themselves: how they first arrive in our bodies as children, how they drift into abstraction, and how poetry can return them to direct presence. David describes the stages of attention he discovered while sitting in silence with the animals of the Galapagos, and how each deeper level of attention changes who we are and what can meet us.What We Dive Into:1. Watching a Galapagos hawk, David moved from self-absorption to noticing, then to being seen, then to sensing the relationship itself as what was most alive. The same progression is available at the kitchen table with a partner or child, if we are willing to let it look back at us.2. We often throw valuable things into grief, such as relationships, marriages, and plans, hoping we will not have to go down ourselves. David suggests that falling all the way to the bottom is how we find solid ground, and how the qualities we loved in someone lost begin to live in us.3. Before David found his path, he had to refuse work that looked close to what he wanted. A stranger’s story by a fireside turned him back toward his original longing. Saying no to the near miss can feel like a loss, but it keeps room open for what is actually calling.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:Waking Up: Get your 14 day free trial!https://www.wakingup.com/knowthyselfAnima Mundi: 20% off with code KNOWTHYSELFhttps://www.animamundiherbals.com/___________00:00 Intro01:59 Words as Doorways into Reality04:20 Living Inside Abstraction09:27 Attention and the Capacity for Conversation22:28 Zen and the Contemplative Path36:59 Speaking from Silence38:56 Overhearing What You Didn’t Know You Knew50:38 Grieving John O’Donohue58:52 The Soul Friend Without a Mask1:01:08 Ambition and Crossing the Unknown Sea1:10:26 Uncertainty on a True Vocation1:24:39 The Power of a Stranger1:26:42 The Courage to Say No1:34:42 Letting Others Remain a Mystery1:42:52 Inner and Outer Horizons2:02:56 Living the Questions___________✨MORE FROM DAVID↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidjwhyte/↳Substack: https://davidwhyte.substack.com↳Poetry & Prose: https://davidwhyte.com/poetry-prose/↳YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@poetdavidwhyte↳https://davidwhyte.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
- 2 weeks ago2h 22m
E216 - Janna Levin: An Astrophysicist's Guide to Black Holes, Higher Dimensions & the Nature of Reality
In this episode, I sit down with Janna Levin, a theoretical astrophysicist at Barnard College of Columbia University, Guggenheim fellow, and author of Black Hole Survival Guide, Black Hole Blues, A Madman Dreams of Turing Machines, and How the Universe Got Its Spots. Janna started out as a philosophy major drawn to the biggest questions, then found in physics a way of answering them that felt true for everyone, everywhere. Preparing for this conversation blew my mind more than almost any other, and sitting with her only deepened that.What We Dive Into:1. When a massive star collapses into a black hole, the star itself keeps falling and leaves behind only curved, empty space. With no material features left to observe, every black hole looks alike, which is why physicists treat them like giant fundamental particles holding clues to quantum gravity.2. Einstein realized the purest experience of gravity is weightlessness, the feeling of falling freely with no chair, floor, or bed in the way. What we call heaviness is really something resisting our fall, while objects simply follow the natural curves of spacetime.3. Janna suggests technological species may face a bottleneck where the ingenuity that builds rockets also builds bombs. Surviving it could mean reaching a balance with nature so complete that a civilization becomes hard to detect, which may help explain why the cosmos looks so quiet.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:https://www.mudwtr.com/knowthyselfUse code KNOWTHYSELF for up to 43% off sitewidehttps://www.oneskin.co/KNOWTHYSELF Use code KNOWTHYSELF for 15% off OneSkinLarineco: 50% off on remineralizing gum https://www.buylarine.com/knowthyself___________00:00 Intro02:24 From Philosophy to Physics06:39 Made of Star Stuff12:13 The Ever Expanding Cosmos17:14 Before the Big Bang21:31 How Complexity Emerges24:42 The Nature of Black Holes32:08 Supermassive Black Holes39:02 Photographing a Black Hole45:33 How Stellar Black Holes Form47:46 Falling Into a Black Hole56:38 The Information Loss Paradox1:00:00 Einstein’s Happiest Thought1:11:00 Nothingness in Physics and Meditation1:19:56 Why Whales Don’t Go to Mars1:24:11 Isotopia and Balance With Nature1:30:50 The Fermi Paradox1:32:13 Intelligence on a New Substrate1:37:30 Humility and the Cosmic Perspective1:41:18 The Odds of Alien Civilizations1:46:17 Consciousness and Extra Dimensions1:54:41 How Many Dimensions Exist2:01:48 Time as the Fourth Dimension2:04:56 Extra Dimensions and Dark Energy2:12:06 A Universe Inside a Black Hole2:19:14 Progeny of One Universe___________✨MORE FROM JANNA LEVIN↳Substack: https://jannalevin.substack.com↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jannalevin/?hl=en↳The Moth Story: https://youtu.be/dVubvLgTcxg?si=Hkaic0osIYwBMcA0↳https://jannalevin.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
- 3 weeks ago2h 13m
E215 - Elizabeth Gilbert: Love Addiction, Telling the Truth & Hearing Your Inner Voice
Elizabeth Gilbert joins me for her first public conversation after a six month sabbatical, a stretch where she stopped writing, producing, and planning so she could simply be available to life. Liz is the author of "Eat, Pray, Love", "Big Magic", and her memoir "All the Way to the River". In this conversation she speaks openly about the daily practice of two-way prayer that guides her choices, her recovery from sex and love addiction, and the story of loving her partner Raya through terminal cancer and active drug addiction.What We Dive Into:1. Liz describes feeling trapped many times in her life, most painfully while caring for Raya through cancer and active addiction. Each time, the only way out was the truth she least wanted to tell, and naming where she was lying, hiding, or manipulating is what finally set her free.2. Recovery taught Liz that no partner, payoff, or praise could fill her sense of scarcity around love. Sitting with the part of her that wailed for someone else at three in the morning, and promising to stay anyway, slowly built a secure attachment to herself that no other person could provide.3. Liz no longer believes everyone must create, but she believes everyone is invited. Success can never be promised, yet telling the story within you will change who you are by the end. As AI grows more capable, the lasting reason to make things may be the one our ancestors had: it is pleasing.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:Waking Up: Get your 14 day free trial!https://www.wakingup.com/knowthyselfTry LMNT & get a free sample pack https://drinkLMNT.com/KnowThyselfUse code KNOWTHYSELF for up to 43% off sitewidehttps://www.mudwtr.com/knowthyself___________00:00 Intro02:30 The Call to Stop08:30 Listening for a Higher Voice19:25 How to Recognize the Ego26:05 The Public, Private, and Secret Self29:12 Writing From Healed Scars33:43 Love and Secrecy With Raya41:10 Codependency and the Truth That Frees47:06 Generosity With Strings Attached53:43 Searching for Enough Love1:00:42 The Inner Child Left Unchecked1:03:29 Life After Seven Years of Recovery1:11:46 Redefining Creative Living1:19:42 Buried Treasure and Ancestral Joy1:22:44 Ideas as Living Entities1:30:16 Creating Without Assurances1:33:44 The Discipline Behind Inspiration1:38:56 Art Scars and Reclaiming Play1:45:32 Creativity in the Age of AI1:50:43 The Practice of Two-Way Prayer1:55:13 Asking for Our Instructions2:01:26 Five Days in Darkness2:06:21 What It Means to Know Thyself___________✨MORE FROM ELIZABETH GILBERT↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth_gilbert_writer↳Substack: https://elizabethgilbert.substack.com/↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GilbertLiz↳https://www.elizabethgilbert.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
- Sep 29, 20262h 39m
E214 - Tom Bilyeu: Humanity Is Splitting into 4 Futures… Choose Wisely
My guest today is Tom Bilyeu, the entrepreneur behind Quest Nutrition who went on to build Impact Theory into one of the most watched long form interview channels in the world. Tom is now building a procedurally generated video game called Kyzen, and in recent years his content has shifted away from personal development and toward economics, artificial intelligence, and the systems that quietly shape how we live. I wanted to sit with him inside that shift, to understand what pulled him away from the mindset conversation he had mastered and toward questions about money, power, and the trajectory of intelligence itself.What We Dive Into:1. Tom credits his success to a simple loop: predict an outcome, run the experiment, and stay honest about what actually happened. He treats being wrong as useful data rather than a threat to his identity, which lets him adjust quickly instead of defending a position that clearly isn't working anymore.2. Tom argues that meaning isn't discovered but handed to us by evolution as an empty box we get to fill. For him that box holds his wife and his work, and he believes people struggle most when whatever filled the box, a job, a role, a relationship, disappears and nothing takes its place.3. Tom's core financial message is that not owning assets quietly erodes your purchasing power through inflation, whether you notice it or not. He believes the escape route is available to almost anyone, but most people never take the step of investing consistently over decades instead of waiting for certainty.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:https://drinkLMNT.com/KnowThyselfTry LMNT & get a free sample pack IM8: Explore the exclusive offerhttps://www.im8health.com/knowthyself___________00:00 Intro01:50 The Evolution of the Show05:02 Between What Was and What's Next08:53 The Spark of Divinity and What Tom Is Building13:52 Nature, Nurture, and Leverage15:49 The Physics of Progress19:35 Facing Ego and Inadequacy24:08 Feeling Most Alive25:58 A New Virtual World27:36 The Coming Bifurcation of Civilization36:52 Superintelligence and Universal Abundance40:27 Four Futures and How Soon50:59 Simulation Theory and Consciousness1:04:13 Why Something Rather Than Nothing1:10:17 Letting Go of Certainty1:21:39 A Communion of Subjects1:30:22 Meaning in a Disenchanted Age1:40:42 Who Is Tom Without His Ambition1:42:10 Rewriting Value in a Post-Scarcity World1:45:55 How the Money System Is Rigged1:59:15 Is a Crash Coming2:02:22 A Message to the West and P(doom)2:09:57 Why Tom Came On the Show2:12:15 Rewiring at the Root and What's Sacred2:18:25 The Movie of Your Life and Your Blind Spot2:21:16 Utility, Novelty, and Fulfillment2:25:20 The Most Transcendent Moment2:27:24 Dabbling in Meditation2:29:13 The Case for First Principles2:32:30 From Adyashanti to Kyzen2:38:20 Outro___________✨MORE FROM TOM BILYEU↳YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu↳Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1nARKz2vTIOb7gC9dusE4b↳Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/↳Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en↳https://www.impacttheory.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
- Sep 22, 20262h 35m
E213 - Matthew Hussey: The Patterns Blocking You From Love (& What To Do)
Matthew Hussey is back on the show, and this conversation picks up right where our last one left off, except he's grown a lot since then. Matthew built his early career on a simple idea: create more opportunity and you'll make better romantic choices. Over time he realized abundance alone doesn't fix anything. The real work lives underneath, in the unconscious patterns and emotional reflexes that decide who we choose and how we behave once we have them. That discovery pushed his focus toward emotional regulation, and it's the thread running through everything we talk about today.What We Dive Into:1. Matthew built his early career on the idea that more romantic opportunity leads to better choices. He later realized abundance does not override the unconscious patterns formed by our earliest relationships. Real change comes from understanding those patterns, not expanding the pool of options.2. When someone does not text back for hours and a whole day unravels, the reaction is rarely about the message itself. Matthew describes triggers as reflexive states shaped by earlier wounds, not conscious choices. Curiosity and self-compassion, not shame, create room to respond differently.3. Matthew traces his readiness for commitment to a relationship built on certainty and standards at once: his wife made clear she was giving it an honest try and expected the same. That let him stop fearing the future and start showing up fully, since the decision no longer sat on him alone.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:https://www.mudwtr.com/knowthyselfUse code KNOWTHYSELF for up to 43% off sitewideWaking Up: Get your 14 day free trial!https://www.wakingup.com/knowthyself___________00:00 Intro01:09 Why the Focus Shifted to Relationships09:26 How Perspective Shifts With Experience11:41 Relationship as a Path to Growth17:11 The Fear Beneath Commitment34:24 Commitment as Freedom, Not Loss48:15 Spreading Your Needs Across a Tribe51:50 What's Actually Essential in a Partner1:00:37 Choosing a True Teammate1:07:11 Being Whole Before You Partner Up1:19:37 The Gift of Real Presence1:26:07 What Men and Women Actually Need1:34:33 Beyond Masculine and Feminine Labels1:36:41 The Illusions and Joys of Parenthood1:41:37 Letting Go of the Achievement Identity1:50:27 Working With Emotional Triggers2:10:08 The Dance of Acceptance and Growth2:12:18 Life as an Earth School2:20:23 Learning From Different Wiring2:22:46 The Power of Shared Vulnerability2:30:20 Closing Reflections2:32:36 Outro___________✨MORE FROM MATTHEW HUSSEY↳FREE 3-Day Event: https://www.3DayCalm.com↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey↳https://matthewhussey.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
- Sep 15, 20261h 56m
E212 - Dr. Shefali: How To Raise Conscious Children (It Starts With You)
I sat down with Dr. Shefali, clinical psychologist trained at Columbia and the voice behind the Conscious Parenting Movement for over two decades, to explore what it really means to parent from awareness instead of ego. We talk about the illusion of the perfect parent, why children are our greatest mirrors, and how the wounds we carry from our own childhoods get passed down unless we do the work to see them clearly. Dr. Shefali doesn't offer a script. She offers a practice of humility, one that asks us to look at ourselves before we look at our kids.What We Dive Into:1. Dr. Shefali explains that most parenting struggles trace back to ego, the desire to control, to be right, to see your child as an extension of your own unmet dreams. Real conscious parenting means constantly questioning whether your actions come from your child's essence or your own unresolved story.2. Without rites of passage or male mentors, boys are left to figure out masculinity through porn and the manosphere. Dr. Shefali argues that testosterone, purpose, and physical challenge need healthy outlets, and that community, not isolation, is what turns raw masculine energy into something protective and grounded.3. Dr. Shefali describes how social media exploits children's developing brains, especially girls', feeding insecurity and manufacturing endless standards to chase. She calls it algorithmic abduction, a process that outsources parenting itself and leaves children disconnected from their own inner voice.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:https://www.wakingup.com/knowthyselfhttps://www.im8health.com/knowthyselfcode KNOWTHYSELF for an exclusive offer https://www.buylarine.com/knowthyselffor up to 50% off on remineralizing gum ___________00:00 Intro01:51 Defining Conscious Parenting03:35 Inviting Grace Into Parenting07:20 Children as the Ultimate Mirror10:25 Where Support Slips Into Control11:07 Protecting the Developmental Years14:05 What a Human Birth Means17:17 Nature, Nurture, and the Cost of Pushing21:43 Why Raise Sons and Daughters Separately26:01 The War on Little Boys30:54 What the Manosphere Gets Right38:10 Male Loneliness and Silence42:45 The Father Wound47:08 What Conscious Masculinity Looks Like52:08 Algorithmic Abduction of Girls58:20 Empowering Girls Beyond Appearance1:02:31 Boundaries and Sharing Power1:09:28 Dr. Shefali's Own Hardest Lesson1:14:43 Preparing to Become a Parent1:16:42 Parenting With a Misaligned Partner1:22:13 Sibling Differences and Favoritism1:33:09 Escaping the Perception Prison1:38:05 The Mother Bind1:40:50 Confused Messages About Sexuality1:45:05 The Machine Behind It All1:55:16 Closing Message to Parents___________✨MORE FROM DR. SHEFALI↳New Raising Conscious Sons / Daughters Books: https://www.drshefali.com/raisingconscious-daughters-sons/↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/↳YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ @doctorshefali ↳https://www.drshefali.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
- Sep 8, 20261h 53m
E211 - John Wineland: Your Wounds Are Choosing Your Partners
John Wineland has spent nearly twenty years teaching people how to love more deeply, and in this conversation he lays out why intimacy has become one of the most demanding spiritual practices available to us. We talk about why relationships surface our oldest wounds, why the partner we choose so often mirrors the exact pattern we grew up in, and why that mirroring is not a mistake but an invitation to heal. John also opens up about his daughter Claire, who passed away eight years ago, and what her life and death taught him about grief, presence, and unconditional love.What We Dive Into:1. John explains that whatever part of you remains unhealed keeps transmitting into the world, and it draws a partner with the opposite wound so you can replay your childhood dynamic together. He frames this pattern as an opportunity rather than a flaw, since the relationship that triggers you most is often showing you exactly what needs attention.2. Years of unspoken fear shape how we stand, breathe, and hold tension, so real change requires more than insight alone. John describes training the nervous system through practices like breathwork and qigong so the body can stay open in moments that would normally trigger defense, attack, or withdrawal, which is where lasting change actually happens.3. Reflecting on his daughter Claire, John shares that there is no end to grief because there is no end to love. He describes honoring grief as an act of self love rather than something to rush past, and encourages anyone facing loss to give that grief real space instead of staying busy to avoid feeling it.Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:https://www.mudwtr.com/knowthyselfUse code KNOWTHYSELF for up to 43% off sitewidehttps://www.oneskin.co/KNOWTHYSELF Use code KNOWTHYSELF for 15% off OneSkin___________00:00 Intro01:48 The Historical Evolution of Love05:45 Why We Attract Our Reciprocal Wound08:17 When Relationships Deepen the Wound10:48 The ROI of Doing the Work14:30 The Four Pillars of Divine Union22:56 Safety, Belonging, and Being Loved26:34 The Wound of Being a Man31:47 Patterns in Men's Work37:49 What the Manosphere Gets Right40:03 Why Men Stay Silent46:47 Masculine and Feminine as Universal Forces55:12 Energetic Polarity and the Three Kinds of No1:01:22 Liberation Through Relationship1:03:23 Staying Connected Through Busy Seasons1:10:14 John's Own Attachment Wound1:15:51 What Claire Taught Him About Love1:24:00 Should I Stay or Should I Go1:33:41 Healing Generational Trauma1:44:45 Preparing for Divine Partnership1:49:02 The Practice of Incremental Improvement1:52:01 Closing and Where to Find John___________✨MORE FROM JOHN WINELAND↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/john_wineland/↳YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JohnWineland↳Teacher Training: https://johnwineland.com/teacher-training/↳Men's Leadership Training: https://johnwineland.com/embodied-mens-leadership-training/https://johnwineland.com📜MORE FROM KNOW THYSELF↳Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4bZMq9l↳Apple: https://apple.co/4iATICX↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/↳TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreduqum↳Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/knowthyselfbyandreduqum/↳https://knowthyselfpodcast.com/👁️MORE FROM ANDRÉ↳Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@andreduqum↳Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/know-thyself-podcast↳Book recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list
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The Art of Being Well
Explores holistic wellness through functional medicine, focusing on body, mind, spirit, and relationships as acts of self-respect.
Get Obsessed : With Living Your Best Life
Two hosts explore transformative stories and taboo topics with people challenging norms and living unfiltered lives.
Between the Ears Podcast
Examines how mental and emotional patterns influence behavior, offering practical ideas for self-awareness, authentic living, and recognizing everyday kindness.
Something You Should Know
Explores practical wisdom and expert insights to help listeners improve their lives, careers, and relationships.
Ready For Love with Hilary Silver
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Intuitive Connection
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About Know Thyself
Know Thyself is a community supporting you to KNOW the true nature of yourself and the world around you, THRIVE in your health, wealth, and relationships – ultimately empowering you to CREATE and share your true self with the world. Each week André Duqum interviews experts in their field; ranging from spiritual educators to cutting edge scientists, heart-led creatives & more on topics such as the true nature of ‘Self’, “what is reality?,” and exploring the fundamental pillars we all need to unlock our fullest potential.
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