I Was Almost a Killer, Here's How I Got There...

There’s a point where you can’t blame your past anymore. You have to look in the mirror and decide who you’re going to become.My guest, Shane Goodbar, has lived both sides of that truth.Shane was sexually abused as a child, learned to hide behind a mask, and eventually found escape through alcohol and drugs. What started as a way to numb the pain spiraled into addiction, broken relationships, multiple DUIs, jail, and a moment where he came terrifyingly close to taking another man’s life.But this isn’t just a story about addiction. It’s about accountability, recovery, fatherhood, faith, forgiveness, and what happens when you finally stop seeing yourself as the victim of your own life.In this episode:How childhood sexual abuse shaped Shane’s identity and need to escapeWhy drugs and alcohol became a way to stop feelingThe rock-bottom moment that finally broke through years of denialHow a two-year therapeutic community completely rebuilt his lifeWhy recovery meant learning to love the man staring back in the mirrorWhat stayed with me most was Shane’s willingness to own all of it. Not excuse it. Not hide from it. Own it.Because no matter how lost you’ve become, your past doesn’t have to be where your story ends. But eventually, you have to take the first step.Key Moments:00:00 The man behind the mask03:18 Hiding childhood sexual abuse06:02 When drugs became the escape09:41 Living two different lives13:15 Addiction starts taking over17:46 The relationship that changed everything21:07 Becoming a father changes the path24:49 The lie he told himself about fatherhood27:07 His fourth DUI and arrest30:04 Ten days after leaving jail33:09 When rock bottom finally hit36:03 Facing the man he had become39:01 Learning to love himself again42:03 The identity crisis facing men45:12 Finding God after years of pain48:26 Why surrender finally brought peace51:03 His message to anyone still lost53:02 What recovery actually gives youConnect with Me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tyler.hall/Connect with Shane:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sr_goodbar/